I am at my childhood home, playing Hide-and-Seek with a little girl. Myself as a child? The little girl and I go to hide while another little girl (also young sally?) counts to 60. Or is it 50…my age? Yes, there are two little girls. They are both me as a child. One is hiding and one is seeking. Hiding girl waves to me and urges me to hide with her. She slips seamlessly into some bushes. Small, young, lithe, flexible – poof! Young sally is gone. I study the bushes. There is no place for me in there. I cannot hide. I don’t want to disappoint this sweet and innocent girl so eager to play with me, so eager for a friend. I crouch into a nook beside the house and behind the bush where hiding girl is obscured. I know I will be found – ending the game…ruining the game. Seeking girl’s counting is coming to an end. “48! 49! 50! Ready or not! Here I come!” I hold my breath. Here she comes. Humming around the corner of the house, she spies me immediately. Yelping, “I see you!” Exposed. Found out. Game over.
I am “it” – my turn to be the seeker. I walk to the side of the house, unsure of the spot where I should count or to what number I should count. 100? I find a spot (not sure it is the right spot), cover my eyes, and begin counting out loud. “1! 2! 3!” I hear everyone sneaking behind me to find their hiding place. I raise my voice. “98! 99! 100! Ready or not! Here I come!”
The sneaking footsteps were heading down the hill to the backyard. I begin my search in that direction.
I walk toward the backyard where the swing set used to be, like the swing set my children have outgrown and that we are now passing on to a younger family. The childhood swing set was where I bit Mary-Ellen because I was so angry and didn’t know how to deal with my frustration. I don’t remember what I was angry about but I felt so provoked that all I could do was lash out with my teeth. My father was furious with me. I remember no effort on his part to discover why I was angry; to support my side of the argument; or to teach me a more constructive way to be angry. In shame, embarrassment, and with complete humiliation, I had to face her scary and formidable father and go to her to apologize. My father made me do it after dinner. You can’t disrupt the dinner routine. It was the end of my friendship with Mary-Ellen, because I didn’t know how you could be angry and still love someone.
Heading to the backyard in my dream, the swing set is gone. In its place are cats. Not small cats. Big cats. Cougars. Pumas. Panthers. Sexy older women? Cougars everywhere. Baby Cougars. Adult Cougars. Slinking, Stalking, Hunting. Frightened for my life, I become desperate to find my husband. Where was he hiding? I had to find him and save him. He wasn’t in the backyard. I run to the front yard. More cougars. A voice was speaking to me in my head. “They may seem to not notice you, but they are aware of you and very dangerous to you. BEWARE!” I could not find my husband. The little girls were gone also. Just me, grown up Sally, exposed. Heart beating with fear at the danger.